A Walk Down Memory Lane

5 years ago I graduated from college. This past Saturday I returned to the city that was my home for three yrs as an undergraduate student. (I spent my junior year abroad.) Heading back to my alma mater, I was hit with waves of nostalgia. Life has changed so much in 5 years; the chapter of carefree daily happiness, numerous parties, dormitory lifestyles, constant parental funding, all within that beautiful cocoon are over. Each replaced with financial responsibilities, a full-time job, and less frequent visits from friends.

How life has changed, but this is exactly how it was meant to be. Upon my arrival on campus, I realized most of the campus’ facade had stayed the same except for some minor cosmetic changes here and there, but the aura remained. There was a certain peace and familiarity which still existed. The staff had changed, the students too, but the memories were still etched there in the concrete foundation.

When we arrived for the picnic, although I was disappointed that many of my old college friends hadn’t attended, I was content with those friends who had come. Since our graduation, some ties have failed, others have gotten stronger, some simply distant. But as they say, c’est la vie. We grow, we evolve, we prosper.

After lunch under the white tents, we reminisced collectively. Everyone had their stories, some their hesitations, others cracked jokes. The brief walk around the campus reminded me of instances where an exam, a final, or my dreams after college were my sole focus. Yet, I took the time to enjoy it. Those four years helped define me as an individual, not only did it make me stronger but it strengthened my values and defined my friends.

I don’t recall a particular exam, or each of the characters of the “Lord of the Rings,” or even how I ended up failing my microeconomics test, but what I do remember is the people I shared my memories with. Regardless of where each of us are in life, college united us, and brightened my years as a student tenfold. Until we all meet again. Adieu.

Post-Breakups in the Limelight…

I follow a well-known black celebrity couple on Facebook and Twitter. Recently they allegedly broke-up and Essence magazine was the first publication to break the news. When I saw the news, personally I was stunned and my world became a shade darker, simply because they seemed to embody the epitome of black love.

Since then, the public and their fans can only speculate as to what went wrong, but the undeniable truth is they looked gorgeous together. Equally beautiful, equally successful, equally happy or so it seemed from their red carpet photos.

In the aftermath of the breakup some of their tweets have been to each other, ranging from snarky cynicism to continued adoration. Recently though it seems as though both are pressed to let the other know that they are living it up, partying and living the good life. Who are y’all really fooling?

Despite going their separate ways, I wonder why he announced he was single via Facebook/Twitter a few weeks ago when the story broke and she’s still very much “engaged,” according to her facebook. In fact, she’s said very little post-breakup.

Most women could care less though about her fate, they are just rejoicing that he’s back on the market, single and ready to mingle which is what he’s been doing in the A and elsewhere. Yet, if there is a glimmer of hope, considering three years of a courtship should constitute for a solid relationship, I hope they do realize there is such a thing as premarital counseling.

Depending on the magnitude of the chasm between them, perhaps it’s worthwhile, if not perhaps she should take the time to recognize the truth and put the rest of us idealists and dreamers out of our misery.

 Signed,

 Cupid’s Messenger

A Parent’s Worst Nightmare…

The Happy Couple

I had to come out of a deep blogging slumber to write about a recent tragedy that happened over Easter break. Before I begin, let me say that I do not know the victims, but learned of their deaths from @MBtheREMIX, a writer I follow on Twitter.

This past weekend, while many of us were celebrating the resurrection of God with our families, Mike and Nia had even more blessings to be thankful for. The inseparable pair were with loved ones for their engagement party announcing their lifelong commitment to each other after five years of dating. The night’s festivities began at a soul food restaurant and from there continued to a lounge. By the time they left however, no one could foresee they would be saying their last good-byes to Nia and Mike.

Early that morning, the pair were brutally gunned down just steps away from their home. All because of a failed carjacking, and cold-blooded killers who are still on the run. Police are looking for a Gold Pontiac Grand AM, two females, a man and one other possible accomplice.

Let’s bring justice to these victims who died too soon. No parent should have to bury their own child. A child full of life, hope, love, joy, compassion, faith and promise nor their soulmate.

If you would like to send your condolences, learn more about them, or even help with the funeral expenses for the deceased please click here to view a website/memorial built in their honor. Please pray for their families as well during this difficult period.

Mike and Nia

RIP Michael Muchioki and Nia Hagg.

Update: 4.15.10

Two women – Darmelia Lawrence and Latonia Bellamy, both 19, have also been charged with the April 4 shooting of the recently engaged couple in what police say was a botched carjacking attempt. Police have also arrested and charged Shiquan Bellamy, 19, in the shooting deaths of Nia Haqq, 25, amd Michael Muchioki, 27. Police have also charged them with the murders of prior victims. For more, click here. Finally justice is being served.

Recent Viral Sensations

Discuss.

Come lend a helping hand…

 

Park 14

One of the DMV local news affiliates reported that the Embassy of Haiti needs volunteers on an ongoing basis. A temporary call center has been created there, but they still need more help with the calls they’re receiving. For more info, please email embassy@haiti.org.

Saturday January 30th (via Twitter)
DC Loves Haiti Benefit:
Featuring a brief program w/ key leaders from the local Haitian-American community who are working to improve life in Haiti. You will have a choice of donating to any or all of 4 nonprofit organizations, and 100% of proceeds will go toward Haitian relief and recovery. 6-9pm at The Park at Fourteenth (920 14th St NW). Cover: $10-$25 (sliding scale donation). To volunteer, contact: Jenny Montoya Tansey at tennymo@gmail.com.

Volunteer Opportunities IN Haiti

Photo courtesy of MSNBC

 As we all know by now Haiti has been devastated by 1 major 7.0 earthquake and an equally destructive 6.1 magnitude aftershock. Many of us have felt powerless, wondering what more can we do aside from donating money, volunteering at call centers or even participating in local donation drives.

Tonic has recently published an excellent guide on organizations working to organize teams to provide 2-week to month-long volunteer missions in Haiti. The groups range from Visions in Action to the Center for International Disaster Information (CIDI) and Habitat for Humanity. Medical and non-medical personnel are welcome to apply. Please pass on the word to all interested parties. Instead of vacationing this year like those onboard the Royal Caribbean who are still enjoying the private beaches of Haiti, perhaps we should consider volunteering for a week to help Haiti rebuild instead.

Tonic: How to Volunteer in Haiti

If you know of any other volunteer projects please send me an email or reply to the posts so I can link them to this page. Thank you.

Text 4636 for Help in Haiti

Text 4636 in case of emergency

Remember that post about Facebook and Twitter replacing 911 call centers a few days ago? Well I just received word that the U.S. Department of State is working in partnership with Digicel. Anyone in need of help  in Haiti can send a free SMS text to 4636 with their location and short phrases about what they need.

The messages are then re-routed to emergency responders on the ground. For more information, please follow the link. Hopefully in the hours to come, all phone companies in Haiti will be able to launch a similar plan since time is running out.  Please pass this on to all your family and friends there.

Volunteering opportunities for Haiti

 

Over 15 truckloads were filled with donations for Haiti, this past Sunday at the Haitian Embassy in D.C. The response was overwhelming. I had a chance to go out and volunteer on Mon., and the warehouse behind D.C. General Hospital was filled with boxes of food, toiletries, baby items, and clothing. Volunteers were there from 10 am to 4 pm and the work resumes tomorrow. Please come out if you can to lend a helping hand; there is still a lot to sort through and package.

The Haitian embassy is no longer accepting donations, they received more than they ever imagined. If you missed your opportunity to donate and still would like to do so, please contact your parish, volunteer groups or visit your local chapter of the Red Cross instead. 

Local Chapters:

Bethesda Red Cross
8901 Wisconsin Avenue
Bethesda, MD 20889-0001
(301) 295-1538

Fairfax Red Cross
8550 Arlington Blvd.
Fairfax, VA 22031
Phone: 703-584-8400

Arlington Red Cross
4333 Arlington Blvd
Arlington, VA 22203
703.527.3010 x760

Alexandria Red Cross
(703) 549-8300

Also volunteers are desperately needed by the Center for International Disaster Information (CIDI) DC. CIDI is requesting volunteers to conduct shifts at the call center asap and into the coming weeks. There will be shifts covering the time period of 6:00 a.m. to midnight. For more information contact Marci Depersig at mdepersig@macf.com.

Thank you for your continued prayers and support. 

Donations for Haiti

 

Volunteers sort through donations

I Have A Dream

 

If Dr. King or Mother Theresa were alive today, they would undoubtedly be touched by the scenes stretching from Dupont Circle in Washington, DC to Massachusetts Ave. Three-way traffic was bumper-to-bumper but the mood calm, patient, hopeful, warm. Despite the slow movement, everyone was united in solidarity to help Haiti. 

Donation Drive for Haiti

 

Whether people were moved by the images of the quake victims in Haiti, or had family and friends effected by the tragedy, each one demonstrated the meaning of compassion and taking care of thy brethren. 

I was surprised by the number of people, young and old on foot or in their cars. One man was carrying a gallon of water and bags in the other hand. Through the reflection of my car’s side mirror I saw a group of students transporting empty boxes, one woman had 6 heavy parcels,the list goes on. 

By the time I reached the Haitian embassy, volunteers and police officers were directing traffic asking drivers, “are you here to drop of a donation?” I heard no one say, “no.” Cars pulled up, volunteers unloaded the vehicles and then we were signaled to move back into traffic. 

The system and coordination was seamless, efficient and peaceful. I snapped a few photographs and hope you’ll take a moment to view the ABC 7 News Story about it. I was overwhelmed by the experience, especially seeing tremendous generosity, which is usually only highlighted during the holidays. This was a call to go above and beyond, and people did just that. By the end of the day dozens of trucks had been filled with tons of much needed supplies which are now en route to Haiti. 

This was a moment that I’ll never forget, it gives me hope, it makes me wonder why moments like these don’t happen more often especially in a world plagued by violence, hate and corruption. 

As I observed the activity on Massachusetts Avenue, Dr. King’s dream reached new heights. “I say to you today, my friends, so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.”

The thousands of people who are contributing through drives for Haiti or  responding to texts, continue to believe in the power of dreams. Today I saw that dream realized. 

Donation Drive for Haiti

Facebook updates & Twitter tweets replace 911

 

Photo, courtesy of Google

 

Initially Facebook and Twitter were the inventions of tech savvy and forward-looking entrepreneurs committed to linking people across the world. Little did they realize in the aftermath of Haiti’s worst national disaster, both social networking sites are generating thousands of 911-esque messages.

While I was logged onto Facebook a day after the quake, I started reading the walls of family members in Haiti, waiting to hear of any news, reassurance that they were alive. One wall post caught my eye. It read, 

“He’s alive but in very bad shape, please please hurry and get there as soon as you can and please put this info in your statuses, * rue Mont-Joli Turgeau ! URGENT !”

Repost Urgent Statuses

 

I immediately reposted the message in my status box. Although I was unsure if it would help, it was a chance I had to take. The power of viral messaging has shattered the nay-sayers over-and-over again. A few hours later, I checked in on Jean-Olivier’s wall to see if anyone had updates about his condition. He had died several hours later after having been rescued. His untimely death wasn’t in vain.

Someone had seen the call for help through Facebook, contacted the Haitian Red Cross and news agencies. By that afternoon aid workers and neighbors were pulling him from the rubble. He passed away in a hospital, after having sustained serious injuries. Yet, he wouldn’t take his last breath pressed beneath a concrete slab. Nor would he be left wondering if he’d ever see familiar faces again. In his last hours, people fought and succeeded in rescuing him from the debris.

His story made me realize the power of reposting even the bleakest messages. However cryptic or far-fetched they may seem – someone, somewhere may have the power to save a life. Therefore when you see an update that is a cry for help, please don’t overlook it. Think of Facebook and Twitter as a 911 call center, that’s fully equipped to send help. 

When a call such as the following comes thru:

“There are still people alive in Caraibean Market, University Quesqueya et College Canado, They Need a Rescue Team- Please Post in your status//Aux Personnes en Haiti, Il y a encore de gens vivant dans les decombes du marche caraibes…”

Simply repost it even for a minute. More times than not, someone will see it and repost it, so you’ve already helped in the rescue mission. Relief workers in Haiti have already mentioned they’re sending teams to areas with reports of a high concentration of survivors. Every little bit helps, through Facebook, Twitter, text, word-of-mouth. Even from afar, we’re not completely powerless

One person I follow on Twitter, @RamHAITI aka Richard Morse, (a Puerto-Rican born Haitian-American  living in Haiti), has been in the middle of the chaos and his tweets have been picked up by CNN. Not only has he been among the first to tweet regularly about the conditions of various neighborhoods throughout Port-au-Prince (even before authorities & relief arrive), 

i.e. “Cite Soleil: Subway 17/19 Sous Wharf area is said to have survived. Some one from Cite Soleil came to see me. TiHaiti/Cite Limye hit hard.”

but he has started retweeting the messages of his followers looking for loved ones in Haiti, hoping to garner any attention. Any news, I promise you, during this devastation is better than none.

Photo courtesy of Reuters

 

Therefore I ask, whenever you come across any Facebook status updates, or Tweets pleading for help from quake victims, please repost it or retweet it. It only takes a second to disseminate the information, a second which can impact a life as in the case of Jean-Olivier Neptune. If you’re uncomfortable doing so, please add it to Facebook’s Earthquake Haiti wall. I guarantee someone will read it and pass it on. And if you really want to go above and beyond, pass the message along to Ataraxisconsulting, created as a result of Jean-Olivier’s death.

The tragedy that’s unfolding has taught me a lot of things. What if Twitter had existed during the Rwandan Genocide, 9/11, Darfur, Katrina? What I do know is this –  there is a dire need for a website similar to Facebook and Twitter which is uniquely committed to emergencies in disaster regions. Users should be able to post in real-time updates – names, locations and the conditions of victims. All of this info would then be allocated to a special rescue team designated for search and recovery in that area, using that social medium.

Perhaps the next major website related to catastrophe will revolutionize emergency response systems. In the meantime, please answer any 911 call that comes your way…

*Other News: 

The U.S. Department of State has just launched a site for the 2010 Earthquake in Haiti. The site features phone numbers for the Embassy’s Consular Task Force, and an email address for those looking for U.S. citizens in Haiti. There is also a “Person Finder” search tab, whether you’re either looking for or have information about someone. For more information click here.

The Haitian Embassy is helping families in the search process. Thus far, they’ve answered 1,000 of 45,000 inquiries which have come in. It doesn’t seem like much, I know but perhaps they need volunteers. Be sure to visit their site for more info. The International Committee of the Red Cross is also working to track relatives. Visit their site for more. CNN is helping in the missing persons search, go to their website to learn more. Finally radio stations across the US are helping Haitians find loved ones, i.e. Radio Soleil D’Haiti in NY has been announcing the names of Haitians who are missing. Call them directly so their names can be aired. Google is also helping

Feel free to post any other information you might have so readers can be aware.